– Q. Moreinu Shlit”a, If someone is sitting shiva but doesn’t want you to publicize it, should you listen to them? (They have a minyan anyway but many people would like to know and be Menachem Avel)
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A. Horav Shlomo Miller’s Shlit’a opinion is that even when one is interested in giving honor to the neshamot of the deceased and having people join the avelim in their mourning, the respect due to the living now in mourning prevails and if for whatever reason they don’t want people to come and visit them, their opinion and needs prevails.

Rabbi A. Bartfeld as revised by Horav Dovid Pam, Horav Aharon Miller, Horav Chanoch Ehrentreu and Horav Kalman Ochs Shlit’a.