– Q. I lost my brother 2 months ago. The rabbi who facilitated the funeral did not ask me who I want to request to say Kaddish. He said he asked Ner Israel and I had to pay $600 I had second thoughts and want my Chabbad rabbi to say Kaddish. I have not paid Net Israel.

Is it OK if I change to my Chabbad rabbi and give a prorated donation to Ner Israel? Should I ask the rabbi who made arrangements if it is ok with him. I attend this rabbi classes he is also a beneficiary of my late brothers Will. I also go to my Chabbad shul every Shabbat. I would like guidance please.

A. After consulting with our group of important Poskim, due the many variants, issues and possible unknown details involved, following the opinion of Horav Kalman Ochs Shlit’a we concluded that it is wiser and more correct that you should consult directly with a competent Rov that is familiar with your situation.

Sorry for the delay. Please send us many more, but simpler cases of shailos.
Horav Shlomo Miller’s Shlit’a opinion is similar.

Rabbi A. Bartfeld as revised by, Horav Dovid Pam, Horav Aharon Miller, Horav Chanoch Ehrentreu and Horav Kalman Ochs Shlit’a