Q. If one has the option to attend a wedding and comply with the very great mitzva of Simchas Chosson Vekalah or visiting a sick person that is being cared by others, but it is a very sad and even disgusting sight, that creates feelings pf pain.
Both are sufficiently being cared for by others. Which then is the mitzva one should attend, the one that brings great joy and Simcha or the Bikur Cholim one that causes sadness and unhappiness?
A. Horav Aharon Miller Shlit’a quoted the Chofetz Chaim Zt’l saying that one should do the mitzva one finds difficult to comply with.
One may add that the correct mitzva to perform is the sad Bikur Cholim, but to do it with the happiness and Simcha of attending the wedding.
Rabbi A. Bartfeld as revised by Horav Dovid Pam, Horav Aharon Miller and Horav Chanoch Ehrentreu Shlit’a.