Q. Does your minyan have a women’s section and accommodate women who say kaddish?
I work at … (nearby) and have yahrzeit Thursday evening and would like to say kaddish at the shul if acceptable.
(similar q.) Can I say the kaddish quietly, together with the others on the men’s section?
thank you.
A. On question 1825 in regards to a married woman who is the only child of a deceased parent
we wrote that “Horav Shlomo Miller’s Shlit’a opinion is that it is preferable that the husband should recite Kaddish, if he gets permission from his living parents. Otherwise, they should hire someone to say Kaddish.”
Although some Poskim are lenient, the Rov maintains that even if there are no other sons to recite kaddish in the yohrzait day, it is better that the woman should ask someone else in the men’s section, to recite the kaddish in her stead, and she should not say it even quietly. The value and effect of a kaddish is when it is said aloud and the minyan answers, not when it is said quietly.
Rabbi A. Bartfeld as revised by Horav Shlomo Miller Shlit’a