Q. I changed my usual minhag this year of not shaving from Pesach till Lag Baomer, to from Rosh Chodesh till Shavuot, because of the need to shave for a job interview. My wife kept the former minhag, can she now listen to music after Lag Baomer, or does she have to follow my temporary minhag?

A. A married woman assumes the minhagim of her husband, regardless if the adopted tradition is more stringent or more lenient than the one she kept before marriage. Two reasons are given for the above; Ishtoi k’gufoi, A “wife is like her husband” (Tashbatz 3,179) and “a person assumes the customs of his new place of abode” (Igrois Moishe O.C. 1,158).

In our case, the wife kept her husband’s customary minhag, to which he is planning to return next year, so she can maintain that same tradition this year and could finish the sfirah prohibitions on Lag Baomer.

Rabbi A. Bartfeld as advised by Horav Shlomo Miller Shlit”a