Q. Additional related question : I bought a Sefer for the women to learn during Kiddush on Shabbos… for an Aliyah for his (my father) Neshama – Is it better to donate it with a note that’s it’s for his Aliyah Neshama or better to loan it out to the N’shei with that note?  Someone mentioned if I donate it then only that one time is for his Aliya vs when it is loaned out, each time it is opened it is for an Aliyah.  Thank you.

A. Horav Shlomo Miller’s Shlit’a opinion is that it may be better to donate it, since it is more likely that it will be used constantly, as you may occasionally be absent or may forget to loan it.
The merit is the same regardless if donated or loaned, as long as it is being used and promotes the knowledge of Torah values for women.

Rabbi A. Bartfeld as revised by Horav Shlomo Miller Shlit”a